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Human trafficking: Tears at the victim’s soul and causes a loss of identity.

About one in five women in the United States are raped during their life, according to data released Friday by the Center for Disease Control. And another 40% experience another form of sexual violence.

“Although progress has been made in efforts to prevent sexual violence, stalking, and intimate partner violence, these forms of violence continue to exact a substantial toll upon U.S. adults,” the CDC study said.

The problem of sexual violence is particularly acute at younger ages. More than half of female victims said they were violated before they reached age 25. This finding is consistent with a UNICEF report released Thursday that suggests that one in 10 girls worldwide is raped before age 20.

The CDC recommended a number of steps to combat sexual violence, including trying to change societal expectations and promoting safe relationships.

“The early promotion of healthy relationships while behaviors are still relatively modifiable makes it more likely that young persons can avoid violence in their relationships,” the report said. – TIME

The link to the Time article regarding statistics on rape on a global scale:

“But all of my knowledge about the dynamics of abusive relationships and healing from partner abuse doesn’t come from the hundreds of books I have read or from the people I have helped. It also comes from the fact that I lived the nightmare of emotional, verbal and physical abuse.

So I know it from the inside out, as well. And I know how hard it is to awaken someone in an abusive relationship. I know what a struggle it is for outsiders to shine the light on the danger that their loved ones live.” -Partners in Prevention

There are warning signs of abuse. If you are concerned about your relationship or the relationship of someone you care about, consider these signs:

  • Having a partner with a bad temper, or one who is jealous or possessive
  • Being overly eager to please the abuser
  • Checking in with abusive partner frequently to outline daily activities or confirm prior plans
  • Frequent injuries and claiming of “accidents”
  • Inconsistent attendance at work, school, or other social activities
  • Excessive clothing or accessories to hide signs of physical abuse
  • Low self-esteem and self-worth
  • Limited access to friends, family, transportation, or money
  • Depression or anxiety or other personality changes

If you or someone you know is experiencing these signs or others that may indicate abuse, talk to someone. If you are not sure if you are being abused, ask someone. If you have questions about someone being abused, ask them. You may save yourself as well as someone else. -Recognizing the Signs of Domestic Abuse.

Children’s Inn: LOVE, HOPE and SAFETY

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Forgive yourself for being young, vulnerable, unable to live up to the impossible standards your abusers placed on you. Forgive yourself for being needy, forgive yourself for having your own thoughts and opinions, forgive yourself for being alive…

I know for myself, and I think for many other survivors, the main blame is placed on our own self.

So my goal in recovery has been to forgive myself. To give myself grace. To accept all of my selves, accept that I am human, and make mistakes and to cherish myself regardless. I think for me, that has been a huge key to my recovery… to standing up for myself, to feeling that I deserve life.-Blooming Lotus, Journey to Recovery from Child Abuse.

  • More than 90% of juvenile sexual abuse victims know their perpetrator in some way.
  • Child abuse occurs at every socioeconomic level, across ethnic and cultural lines, within all religions and at all levels of education. -National Child Abuse Statistics from Prevention and Treatment of Child Abuse (
  • Women who had suffered sexual abuse by a family member also reported a rape or attempted rape after the age of 14.
  • A child who is the victim of prolonged sexual abuse usually develops low self-esteem, a feeling of worthlessness and an abnormal or distorted view of sex. The child may become withdrawn and mistrustful of adults, and can become suicidal.  -Child Sexual Abuse Statistics from The National Center for Victims of Crime (

“As many as two-thirds of all people in treatment for drug abuse report that they were physically, sexually, or emotionally abused during childhood.” -Neil Swan, NIDA NOTES

How can child abuse victims be identified and studied to track the variables that may contribute to subsequent drug abuse? What factors lessen or strengthen the risk that child abuse will progress to drug abuse?

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